Saturday, November 17, 2012

Date Night

I'm sure you've all heard it, just like I have. They (I don't actually know who 'they' are) say you should go out on a date every week. We have never felt that was necessary or financially advisable for us. Recently however, I came to the realization that date night does not actually have to involve going out. 

After this epiphany, we started having weekly date night. We take turns planning it and try to do a mixture of going out and staying in. Turns out, I love it. I had thought of doing date nights at home before, but dismissed the idea because we watch movies together, read together or just sit and talk all the time, so why would calling it 'date night' make any difference? I can now tell you, that it doesn't matter what you call it. What matters is taking to time to plan on doing something specific. It's important to know that we are not just watching a movie together because we live in the same house and have nothing better to do, but because we want to spend time together and made a plan to do so. I don't know if that made sense, so you'll just have to take my word for it.

One of my favorites was a few weeks ago. We went up to Usury Park, took tons of blankets, sat in the back of the truck and had a picnic. Yes, everyone that drove past us did look at us like we were crazy. Thanks for asking. After we were done, we looked at the stars and tried to see how much we remember from the astronomy class we took together back when we were engaged. We didn't remember much. Fortunately, we downloaded a star gazing app onto the iPad to help jog our memories.

Last night, Jacob was in charge and I was not feeling well. He called on his way home and offered to pick up something for dinner. Fortunately, I had already put something in the crock pot, so that temptation was avoided. After the kids went to bed, he got all this out and told me we were having 'sick date night'. It was perfect. We drank hot chocolate, ate Pirouettes and watched and episode of Sherlock (which was the perfect length, I would have fallen asleep if we had tried to watch a movie.)


I love date night. I feel loved every time my husband plans something for me. Even something like watching a  show and drinking hot cocoa. Actually, I think I felt more loved than I would have if he had tried to drag me out to a restaurant.

6 comments:

Jessica Biscuit said...

Yeah, andrew and I are pretty terrible at date nights so I understood perfectly what you were talking about. Those at home date nights are my favorite. :)

Isn't an episode of Sherlock the same length as a movie?

Jacob & Clarissa said...

Close. They're an hour and a half.

Jessica Biscuit said...

Ah. Yeah I just remember watching it and thinking it'd be like half an hour. Not that it wasn't good, it was just way longer than I expected =P

Did I mention that this blog post articulated perfectly what I've been trying to say to myself (and consequently explain to Andrew) for the past year?

Jacob & Clarissa said...

Haha, make him read it! Don't worry though, it only took us 6 1/2 years to get it.

Jessica Biscuit said...

I told him the basic gist of it last night. It's not that he doesn't understand, it's just that I couldn't put it as well as you did. Reading it was like having a light bulb go on in my head.

Also, it's snowing on your blog. It's awesome. :)

Jacob & Clarissa said...

I know. It totally made Emily's day. She told everyone she possibly could. If only the background wasn't white so you could see it better.